Dealing with imposter syndrome

December 04, 2022

I’ve always struggled with understanding why people deal with imposter syndrome. If you don’t know what imposter syndrome is, let me share the Wikipedia definition.

Impostor syndrome is a psychological occurrence in which an individual doubts their skills, talents, or accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a fraud.

From my childhood, I’ve been a very self-confident kid. I’ve never doubted myself, or I’ve never underestimated myself. So when I hear people, usually people who are defined as “successful, “according to our current society, I can’t understand why they feel that way. I even sometimes doubted them and thought oh, they’re trying to be relatable to their audience. But let me tell you one lesson that I learned last week.

If you have been following my channel for a while, you probably know how much I like the book “The unfair advantage. “ I’ve also made a video about it which gained 2M views in less than a year, which is insane.

It’s one of my personal favorites, and I feel like it’s one of the most valuable pieces of content I’ve put out. ( if you haven't watched it already, I highly recommend)

That book changed my success view and taught me to level up my game and not be ashamed of using my unfair advantages. After finishing that book, I become a massive fan of the authors of the book, Hasan Kubba, and Ash Ali.

The Unfair Advantage: How You Already Have What It Takes to Succeed by [Ash Ali, Hasan Kubba]

I chatted with Hasan Kubba before I published my video, but we never had a proper interaction. After I posted it, it started to go viral, gaining more and more views. One of the viewers of the video reached out to Hasan, which made him realize my video. That led to further conversations, and last week Hasan and Ash invited me to the first Unfair advantage creator event held in London. I, of course, said yes and went to the event to meet other amazing, inspiring creators. Hasan also invited me to brunch so that we could talk more. I booked everything immediately and made plans for London. But I started to feel things I’d never felt in my life.

Whenever I thought about the brunch that I was going to have with one of the authors I respect the most, I started to get stressed and started to doubt myself. I was consistently thinking, “what value can I bring to the table? I’m only going to waste his valuable time. I’m not enough.” You wouldn’t believe how many times I wanted to cancel the brunch. How many excuses I found to tell not to go to that brunch, but I reminded one of my life mottos.

Growth never comes from a place of comfort.

If uncomfortableness comes from a new experience, just do it. The uncomfortableness is a sign that it’s out of your comfort zone. You might learn something. Don't be afraid. You got this.

I don’t know how often I repeated those things in my mind, but after a while, it worked, and I met Hasan.

It was one of the most joyful experiences I’ve ever had. I enjoyed every single second of the conversation and learned so many things from him. Now when I look back, I’m happy that I showed up and didn't run away. Imposter syndrome is something we need to face if we’re constantly trying to grow and get out of our comfort zones but don’t forget you can make excuses or you can make progress. You choose. (Brian Tracy said it btw, not me. I wish it was me tho :)

Have a fantastic week,

xoxo

Ruri